Men don’t have it easy when it comes to taking liberties with sharing their feelings or being expressive. Often, it’s even more difficult for them to admit they need help or want some time to take an introspective look deep inside themselves. Sometimes it just seems easier to shield your ego and soldier on, but this isn’t always the best solution when you know you want to make a change but don’t know how. But if you’re here, chances are you’ve already let the walls come down a little and are willing to put in the hard yards to become a better you. Fortunately, you have a broad selection of excellent reading material out there when it comes to self-help books, but you might not feel like every title really addresses your needs. Turning to the best self-improvement books for men ensures you can solve issues that directly apply to you. Take a look at the list of titles below as you begin your journey.
It’s common to read statistics about how women are the most frequent sufferers of depression, so what’s a man supposed to do when he faces it and seemingly has no outlets? Depression in men can manifest as workaholism, intimacy issues, and anger instead. This book by Terrence Real, a psychotherapist, explains why male depression is stigmatized and works to help you understand your pain, improve relationships again, and heal yourself while you undergo this battle. It’s not a typical self-help book, but it has plenty of useful information that can get to the root of your least-liked behaviors.
You’ve heard the saying that nice guys finish last, and there’s certainly no problem in being nice or treating others with respect, but issues arise when you have difficulty asserting yourself or standing up for the things you want. Written by Robert Glover, a marriage and family therapist, No More Mr. Nice Guy offers a proven plan for “getting what you want in love, sex, and life.” This book teaches you how to stop worrying about pleasing other people (to your detriment), how to quit neglecting your own needs in favor of others’, and how to silence that nagging voice that’s always encouraging you to seek approval. You’ll also learn how to pursue what you want in life, express your emotions healthily, enjoy romantic relationships and friendships, and embrace your masculinity.
The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire
Do you feel like you’re floating through life, not really knowing what you want out of it or what others might want of you? Are you struggling with the idea of what it means to you to be a man or craft your own identity? If so, this book by David Deida will come in handy. The author explains how you can take a new approach to looking at some of the common life areas in which men typically experience trouble or upsets, including family, women, love, and masculinity. You’ll learn how to become a person of integrity and honesty who is able to live life as freely as you desire by embracing your own combination of masculine and feminine qualities in a way that exudes confidence.
Heterosexual relationships are difficult, theorizes author Patti Henry, because men and women have different methods of communicating (and hiding) their emotions, and these two elements are often at odds with one another. It’s a common problem that men prefer to retreat rather than stand up and confront their emotions, making themselves emotionally unavailable to their partners to avoid conflict. If you see this pattern in your relationships and aren’t sure how to change it, this book is packed with specific actions you can take to start improving. In addition, the second half of the book is also directed at your partner, so she can read it and understand the different ways she can help you.
Self-Defeating Behaviors: Free Yourself from the Habits, Compulsions, Feelings, and Attitudes that Hold You Back
The basic premise of this book is that, during every moment of every day, you have the chance to decide whether you’re going to approach a decision with a self-defeating or a self-improving outlook. All too often, men talk themselves down or convince themselves they’re not capable of doing something, when in reality their minds and attitudes are what hold them back. In this book by Milton Cudney, you’ll learn how to identify the self-defeating ideas you hold, how they damage your chances for success, and every possible way to change this pattern of negative thinking so you can build self-confidence.